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Courtesy in a Nutshell: Courtship Courtesy

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  • Courtesy in a Nutshell: Courtship Courtesy

    Dear Denizens,

    Below you will find a simplified list of Courtship Courtesy. It will cover the basics, as well as each phase. A list of accepted displays of affection will also be appended.

    As with most societal rules, they are subject to change with the times, and any changes to protocol will be posted for general education.

    ~ Mistress Sinvy, Patron of the Courtesy Circle

    *several indigo-bordered missives have been tidily pinned beneath this one*

    OOC:

    Courtesy in a Nutshell: Entering and Leaving

    Courtesy in a Nutshell: Rank & Expectations

    Courtesy in a Nutshell: Expectations of Servants

    Courtesy in a Nutshell: General Public, Private and Event Conduct
    Lady Sinvy
    Lady of Her Majesty's Court
    Mistress of the Cellars
    Sponsor of the Courtesy Circle

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    The Basics

    The Basics
    • You must suit or court within proper ranks, a rank above, below or equal to you.
    • You must maintain decorum at all times as per the general Courtesy rules.
    • You must not engage in behaviour that would cause scandal or gossip.
    • You must adhere to the proper progression: friendship, suiting, courting, marriage.
    • You may break from any level of involvement, but the further along the more solemn.
    • You must allow a respectful amount of time between relationships should you break ties. This is typically longer than two days, three days or even longer than one or two weeks.
    • You should not suit, court or wed those you work with. This has potential for scandal and difficulties in the work place.
    Lady Sinvy
    Lady of Her Majesty's Court
    Mistress of the Cellars
    Sponsor of the Courtesy Circle

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    • #3
      Pressing Suit

      Pressing Suit

      • You must know an individual for no less than two weeks before pressing suit.
      • You may press suit to multiple individuals. They must ALL be aware of this.
      • You must not engage in "relations" with people you are pressing suit to.
      • You must maintain an appropriate level of affection; escorting and hand kissing allowed.
      • You may grace the individual you are suiting with a humble gift.
      • You must not offer multiple extravagant gifts at this phase. It would be seen as more.
      • You may seek the approval of your superior or liege if you have them.
      Lady Sinvy
      Lady of Her Majesty's Court
      Mistress of the Cellars
      Sponsor of the Courtesy Circle

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      • #4
        Courting

        Courting
        • You must have been pressing suit with an individual for at least one moon.
        • You may not court multiple individuals.
        • You may enter the chamber of your partner, but it may be frowned upon.
        • You must maintain an appropriate level of affection; escorting, hand and cheek kissing.
        • You may make an announcement upon the public boards if you feel it necessary.
        • You may tastefully express your affection in the form of poetry or gifts during this phase.
        • You must seek the approval of your superior or leige if you have them.
        • You must attend as many functions as a couple as you can.
        Lady Sinvy
        Lady of Her Majesty's Court
        Mistress of the Cellars
        Sponsor of the Courtesy Circle

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        • #5
          Betrothal & Marriage

          Betrothal & Marriage
          • You must seek the Lord Chamberlain for formal permission to become engaged.
          • You may present your betrothed with a ring, it is not tradition however.
          • You must make an announcement of engagement upon the public boards.
          • You must have been courting an individual for at least three moons.
          • You may not marry or be engaged to multiple individuals at once.
          • You must maintain an appropriate level of affection; escorting, hand and cheek kissing.*
          • You may tastefully express your affection in the form of poetry or gifts during this phase.
          • You must not enter into or break a betrothal or marriage lightly. These are sacred oaths.
          • If you must have paramours, you must be discreet so as to not embarrass your spouse.
          Lady Sinvy
          Lady of Her Majesty's Court
          Mistress of the Cellars
          Sponsor of the Courtesy Circle

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          • #6
            Additional Notes

            Additional Notes

            The level of affection that is able to be shown publically between couples that are suiting, courting, engaged and married vary.

            If a couple is only suiting the bare minimum of contact and privacy should be had as this is the friendly stage where you get to know each other mentally and emotionally. Escorting and the kissing of hands is acceptable. One should not linger overmuch in their direct presence or frequently vanish to unknown locations as this gives the impression that they are more than suiting.

            If a couple has progressed to courtship they may similarly treat each other in public; escorts and kissing of hands, the occasional touch of the hands or hair, but absolutely no more than that.

            If a couple has progressed to engagement or even marriage they may similarly treat each other in pubic; escorts, kissing of hands, the occasional touch of hand or hair. It is also acceptable for the man to rest his hand upon the small of his beloveds back. A couple should never hug excessively in public, sit on each others laps and other unseemly displays of affection.


            Any questions may be sent to myself and I will reply via missive, in person, through a formal meeting or even upon the boards.

            ~ S.

            The etiquette of hand kissing will follow after Fine Amour.
            Lady Sinvy
            Lady of Her Majesty's Court
            Mistress of the Cellars
            Sponsor of the Courtesy Circle

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            • #7
              *repinned by a page boy*
              Lady Sinvy
              Lady of Her Majesty's Court
              Mistress of the Cellars
              Sponsor of the Courtesy Circle

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              • #8
                *carefully pinned over the older version in case of any revisions that have since been made*
                Lady Sinvy
                Lady of Her Majesty's Court
                Mistress of the Cellars
                Sponsor of the Courtesy Circle

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                • #9
                  *OOC: This has somehow been dug out and shuffled to the front for reading.*

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